Saturday, March 26, 2011

Love you for what you are!!

Disclaimer: This is not about men who are aggressive, dominant or chauvinistic!! :) It’s all about the men whom we love and live with!! And, It’s all written from a gal’s perspective, sorry for the gender bias.

Daddies, as a rule, name their daughters after their moms mainly because they wish to see motherly love in the innocent faces of their resembling kids. Every time we think of an ideal father (Father of a Gal here), we remember a dad who teaches his daughter to ride her bicycle, instills the spirit of courage by narrating stories of great leaders, counsels when she receives her first love letter and after appropriate ideation, accepts the love she has for an entirely new person. His role does not get any trivial after her marriage as he has to convince his damsel from missing him in spite of feeling empty at heart himself.
Brothers get ready for the encounter and nagging as early as they get to know “It's a Gal” in their mother’s womb. Though at times they are compelled to do all the pick up-drop, give shopping company, book tickets, etc, more frequently its falls impulsively. Lot of instances like an unexpected gift on her birthday, a sorry message or e-card after having a big fight and at the extreme, catching up a duel with someone on the road suspected to be eve-teasing her (not so sure :P) plant the feeling of security and comfort irreparably and irreplaceably.
Friends – Ah!! This is a real broad category of Men; words will not suffice to describe this kind. One stands by at the times of hardships, one takes her to the doctor when no one is there around; one finds her way when she is lost in a new city and one calls her frequently, simply to get to know if things are fine at her side. Some say, the world has lost its entire good people and whatever anyone does is for the sake of a business value. But any woman who has such a set of friends is bound to defy that.
Well, it would be too optimistic if everyone has a group like that and to remind, we are only talking of the good things in life everyday.
Relationships are hard to define. Relationships created by women are harder to define. Initially they succumb to all the care and affection from a so-called friend, start liking him and remain in that state without realizing that she has already fallen in love with him. Men are the first ones to realize and to propose, which makes her say promptly, “He proposed me!!!” Men still know to handle it in a sportive manner and enjoy the surprise in her face. With a smile, He manages the hard time in persuading her in to the committed status. Life is all beautiful!! At least, that's what he thinks!! ;) Marriage and the role of a husband leave him a lot of apprehensions, yet he is glad to take up the liability to win the love of his life.
So that's all, flattering the men in any women’s life, provided such men really exist. Every woman might not have the best combination of all the above men in her life, but for sure she will have at least one of the above in a compensating manner.
Daddies might not have any time for their little moms; Brothers might think that laptops are best company to keep than their niggling sisters; a close friend in the past might totally keep away for reasons which he alone could explain; relationships pre or post marriage are highly prone to disasters. However bad things go, there’s someone at the end, a shoulder to cry on, a consoling word and a tear from the eye for her sake.
And the best part is, she is intended to understand all these strings attached to her and keep the bind strong enough. Controversies and Contradictions might loosen these strings but that which fastens it is the belief, either has on the other.
Men are men, they are what they are meant to be and loved for what they are. !! :) :)